Article Written by Oloni
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As you unwind during this time of the year, it’s important to find new ways to relax and also explore your body like never before. Many shy away from the topic because of how society has made us feel about our sexuality. It has been seen as something that’s dirty… a forbidden act, especially with the old myths around it, such as going blind?! Crazy, right?
Today, we know that this couldn’t be further from the truth, and understand that self-pleasure has many health benefits. This includes better sleep, relieving cramps, stress, and allowing you to think twice before calling an ex. Okay, so maybe the last one isn’t completely true, but masturbation can help release sexual tension, which CAN help stop you from calling your ex.
Research has shown that when you achieve that euphoric, toe-curling, mind-numbing, beautiful climax, your brain releases happy hormones, known as oxytocin and dopamine. These hormones are responsible for what brings us pleasure and desire, more of a reason as to why sex toys are needed!
Exploring your body and understanding what you enjoy can help you become a better lover. You become more confident within your sexuality, and are able to teach your sexual partner what it is that you enjoy between the sheets.
Now that I’ve gotten all the facts out of the way, it’s time I introduce you to the toys to gift yourself, your partner, or friends.
If you listen to my podcast, Laid Bare, you’ll know how much I rave about the Pro40 by Womanizer. It’s a toy that every woman not only needs but deserves. I’ve tried many toys in my life and simply nothing quite compares. It includes the latest suction technology function, which is still quite new to the world of sex toys. Many have described the toy as “life-changing” and they’re not wrong. I even gifted some of my friends the pro40, because I wanted other women to experience the magic.
If you are new to the world of sex toys and want to ease yourself in slowly, then try this bullet vibrator. It includes 7 different vibrating patterns, allowing your body to decide what it enjoys best. Not only is this great for beginners, but it’s also amazing to use during intimacy with your partner. Foreplay, solo, or mutual masturbation, every woman needs a small vibrator. What’s more, is that it’s a quiet toy, so if your house is fuller than usual due to the holidays, it’s unlikely anyone will hear what you’re up to.
When experimenting with sex toys, it’s more exciting when you switch it up. Think of it as lingerie when you’re with your partner. Do you wear the same set every night? Absolutely not! Treat your body the same. Spice up your sex drawer with different toys. I enjoy using wands for solo play, but even more, for couples play! Wands are adventurous in the bedroom because they can reach important erogenous zones in different positions. This wand also has 10 different speeds, and 7 different patterns, so you know the fun is just endless.
Orgasms are wonderful, but the build-up to it is just as important, which is why foreplay should never be skipped. This naughty board game is a great way to get closer to your lover this Christmas. Have some flirty fun by discovering a different side to whoever you’re playing with. You just might be shocked and even turned on by what you find out.